Practice Being Human.
A philosophy for taking up space, getting curious, and experiencing the hell out of being alive.
My Philosophy is simple…and yet 14+ years in the making.
I think we've become really fucking good at working on ourselves.
We set goals, build habits, track progress, fix our flaws, oPtiMiZE our routines, and continue to chase the next version of ourselves. We learn how to be more disciplined, more productive, more desirable, more everything. MORE MORE MORE!!!!
And somewhere in all that self-improvement, it's easy to forget that we're actually supposed to be LIVING.
I came into this work through movement. Through strength training, coaching, and helping people discover what their bodies are capable of. But the longer I do this work, the more I've realized that something has always felt missing… physical strength is only one piece of a much bigger picture. How we move is connected to how we feel. How we nourish ourselves is connected to how we care for ourselves. What we believe about our bodies is connected to how much space we allow ourselves to take up in the world.
I feel in my heart, my gut, my butthole, for crying out loud (!!!) that we DO NOT need another set of rules for becoming better people. I believe we need more opportunities to experience ourselves.
And that's where this practice begins.
You are not a project to fix.
Mind-blowing. I know.
Maybe you've spent years trying to get your body right. Trying to be more confident, more consistent, more disciplined, more comfortable in your own skin.
Me too, girl!!
Maybe you've gotten really good at knowing what you should be doing, but struggle to hear what your body actually needs.
I am sure you're tired of making yourself smaller to keep other people comfortable. Of overriding your instincts. Of treating rest like something you have to earn. Of feeling like your life is one big waiting room for the person you're supposed to become. And somehow… after all this care and thought and work you’ve done, she still hasn’t arrived.
Will she ever?
I want you to know that you are allowed to want more without making yourself or your body the problem.
You can want to change your body without hating your body. You can pursue change without treating who you are right now as a disappointment. You can be a work in progress and a goddamn masterpiece at the same time.
I'm not interested in making you better at abandoning yourself in the name of self-improvement. No ma’am. Been there, done that. That shit’s for weak people.
I want you to build a relationship with yourself that makes it easier to stand up for what you need, trust what you feel, explore what you want, and take up space as the woman you are becoming.
Five dimensions.
One whole human.
Being human isn't one-dimensional. DUH!! Neither are you.
Your physical body, inner world, everyday care, awareness, and capacity for exploration are all connected. We can separate them long enough to understand them, but we don't get to experience them in isolation.
That's why this work moves through Five Dimensions of Being.
1
EMBODY
Get out of your head. Get into your body.
Your body isn't a renovation project, a before photo, or an inconvenience to manage. It's literally how you experience the world. Through movement, strength, mobility, coordination, sensation, and play, we build a body you can trust, use, express yourself through, and genuinely enjoy living in.
2
ATTUNE
Listen to the shit happening beneath the surface.
There's a lot going on inside you that doesn't always get a say. Your emotions, sensations, intuition, energy, and nervous system are constantly communicating with you. Attuning means learning to notice what's happening within you without placing meaning on it, instead of automatically overriding it.
3
TEND
Nourish. Rest. Recover. Slowing down is not bad.
Care isn't something you earn after you've done enough. It's the foundation that makes everything else possible. This is where nourishment, sleep, recovery, boundaries, and everyday rituals come in. Not as another list of things to get right, but as ways of responding to what you actually need.
4
WITNESS
Get curious about your own bullshit.
We all carry stories, patterns, expectations, and beliefs that shape how we move through the world. Some serve us. Some don't. Witnessing is the practice of noticing without immediately judging, fixing, or running away. It's creating enough space to understand what's happening and decide what you want to do with it.
5
EXPLORE
Be a beginner. Be curious. Get a little weird.
You don't have to turn everything into a goal. Sometimes growth looks like learning a handstand. Sometimes it's dancing, making something, traveling somewhere new, asking a better question, or doing something simply because it makes you feel alive. Exploration gives you room to experiment with who you are and who you might become.
These dimensions aren't a checklist or a five-step program. They're different ways of understanding and experiencing yourself. One practice might touch all five. Another might invite you to spend a little more time in one.
There is no perfect balance to achieve. Just a relationship with your body I’ll bet you’ve never had.
So, how do we practice?
We get curious. We experiment. We pay attention. And then we do it again.
Sometimes that looks like getting stronger, learning a new movement, or developing a physical skill you've always wanted to try.
Sometimes it looks like understanding how to nourish yourself without turning every meal into a math problem.
Sometimes it's learning to slow down, sit with an uncomfortable feeling, recognize a pattern, or finally establish a boundary you've been avoiding.
Sometimes it's doing something you've never done before, just to remember what it feels like to be a beginner.
The practices might include strength training, skill work, other forms of movement, nutrition (but probably not in the way you’re thinking), breathwork, embodiment, Reiki, guided meditation, tarot and journaling, reflection, creative exploration, or simply choosing differently in an ordinary moment.
Not every practice needs to be profound. In fact, most won’t be. Not every experience needs to produce a breakthrough. And not everything needs to be optimized for maximum personal growth (*eye roll*).
We're allowed to do things because they're fun, because they're interesting, because they make us feel something, or because we fucking want to.
The point isn't to collect more practices. It's to develop a better relationship with the person practicing them. YOU, biiiitch!!
A few things we're not doing.
We're not treating your body like a project that will end, then the teacher gives you an A++, and you never have to work on yourself again.
We're not confusing restriction with discipline, exhaustion with ambition, or self-criticism with accountability.
Hobbies will not become side hustles. No meal plans. No rigidity in food. No fixing every emotion we feel immediately upon feeling it.
We're not chasing some imaginary version of you who finally has everything figured out. SHE DOESN’T EXIST!! ;-)
And I am certainly not handing you another rigid set of rules and calling it freedom.
You get to question things. You get to change your mind. You get to outgrow old versions of yourself. You get to take what works, leave what doesn't, and develop your own understanding along the way.
This is your life. You should have a say in how you experience it.
Practice being human.
I don't think the goal should be to spend your entire life working on yourself. To gym for the sake of gym. To lift for the sake of looking some type of way that will inevitably end up sagging, no matter how hard you try… that will eventually become part of the Earth again.
Sure, you can be sexy and hot… but tell me something: Have you really ever FELT sexy and hot… at your skinnest? Smallest? Most “optimized?”
I think the goal is to build a life you actually get to experience. TO FEEL!
One where you feel at home in your body. Where you can recognize and respond to your needs. Where you trust yourself enough to take up space, try new things, make mistakes, change direction, and keep becoming. AND be sexy and hot doing it.
There is no finish line where you finally become a person who has their shit together forever.
There is only the practice.
The small decisions. The uncomfortable conversations. The new experiences. The moments you choose to listen instead of override, to express instead of suppress, to participate instead of simply perform.
You didn't come here just to get through your life.